Your first post above (#32) I think you'll find a lot of people here agree with - Of course all women should find their own sexuality and sensuality, and it most definitely not be defined by others. The way society in the West wants women to be sexual objects for men... and nuns.... all at the same time, is absolutely wrong. I agree and I bet the majority on this site do too
On your second post you do seem, I must respectfully say, to have forgotten where you are posting. You are angry, I can tell, but you seem to have focused your pain in the wrong direction.
To my mind there is a spectrum...
Most of the population have never given any serious thought to being anything other than the gender they were assigned at birth
Some – and there is no way of knowing how many – play with the idea in their heads sometimes, either as a gentle fancy, a thought experiment, which many OR MAY NOT develop into a sexual fantasy.
Neither of these groups take the trouble to look up groups like this on the internet.
The rest of the population – quite a small minority – accept they have some kind of trans feeling.
Some of these people could well be happier if they did transition, but for whatever reason decide they don’t need to, or won’t for some personal reason. Those reasons can be quite complex and vary from person to person. Some get some release by dressing up (I don’t) , some by consistently thinking of the idea of transitioning, or what life would be like if they did.
Some of this group do eventually transition. Many don’t
Then we get to the people for whom life is intolerable if they don’t.
But these two groups are not in opposition to each other, there is scope for mutual support.
Very very very few people on these boards sign up to AGP or Blanchard. If you read these boards you’ll know when the subject of AGP comes up there are 9 posts decrying the theory to 1 that supports it (and they are usually by 1 or 2 specific individuals)
So you have defined your ‘enemy’ as no timers and ‘part timers’ who can ‘hide away as men when they want to…
I accept that I can go out and people don’t recognise me as a person with any kind of gender issue; I accept that’s an advantage but its not one I exactly revel in.. I still have trans thoughts running through my head, and for people further along the spectrum than me, that causes pain, not relief or escape.
You write “Go away and work out your gender issues”… well this is a forum that has been set up for just that sort of working out. Come out and slamming people, and telling them to ‘go away’ from the forum that has been set up to help them is not in the slightest bit helpful.
Saying that people who have trans issues but choose that their own personal path does not lie down the path of transition are as much an enemy as the religious right and TERFS is, frankly, offensive. Personally I support transitioners and have made some on line friendships with many. The fact that I have less intense versions of the feelings that they have makes me .. .well not the same but certainly an ally…. And small minorities need allies from other groups, because no battle for civil rights or acceptance can ever be one by small groups fighting on their own.
In the past I have chatted to transitiners who have told me that I should either transition or I’m a fraud. Jack has given me a space where I can be accepted for the feelings I have…. I extend that acceptance to you, for your feelings.
I had not heard of Brynn Tannehill before reading your post. I’ve heard of quite a few trans activists (In the UK I have much respect for Paris Lees) and I’ve just looked up Ms Tannehill and I’m sure she is great… but if she groups all crossdressers together and assigned attitudes to them, then criticises them all for those attitudes (probably held by a few) then don’t expect us to be so impressed by that.
Everyone has a right to choose their path so long as they don’t hurt anyone else… I’m probably what you’d call a ‘no timer’ because I have trans feelings that have never been quite strong enough to change my own life, but have given me an empathy for trans people that I might not have had otherwise. (though might have since I also support gay rights despite not being gay)
Identify me as an ‘enemy if you wish’ though I accept no such label. As transitioner you have my respect, more so as a supporter of other transitioner.