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This is relevant to the crossdreamer debate, as some seem to belive that crossdreaming can be CAUSED by a sex addiction, and not the other way around: that a suppressed and unlived sexuality can cause an obession with -- let's say -- porn.
How To Treat Sex Addiction When You Don't Think It Exists
Zahra Barnes writes:
=In Kerner’s corner is the American Academy of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, which in December 2016 released a statement emphasizing their belief that sex addiction isn’t real. “[AASECT] does not find sufficient empirical evidence to support the classification of sex addiction or porn addiction as a mental health disorder and does not find the sexual addiction training, treatment methods, and educational pedagogies to be adequately informed by accurate human sexuality knowledge,” the statement reads in part.
According to Katehakis, people can get hooked on the rush, whether that’s due to sex or drugs: “[These actions] form deeper neural pathways as they become habituated. Humans have very malleable brains, so these become adaptive patterns.”She believes that true sex addiction happens because the person needs that flood of feel-good feelings. “Classic sex addiction is based in trauma, like emotional or physical abuse or neglect in childhood,” Katehakis says, adding that a person who has been traumatized may feel “dead inside” and look to different vices in an effort to feel something. “The use of sex creates a dopaminergic [dopamine-related] rush.”
I found this comment especilly illuminating:
Some people may think they’re addicted to sex—or even have an expert diagnose them as such—because they’re doing things outside their comfort zone or acting in a way that feels out of control.“In my experience, the majority of people [who identify as sex addicts] are not really compulsive at all,” Aaron says. “They may have a fetish they feel is unhealthy or impure, or come from a religious, sex-negative, or sex-shaming background.”Kerner agrees. “There’s a number of people who are alarmed at some aspect of their sexuality, like masturbating to gay porn or liking kinky sex, and want to eliminate it. Because they cannot, they identify as sex addicts,” he says, noting that men are far more likely than women to present with problematic sexual issues.
In other words: Crossdreamers may think they are sex addicts, because society instills gulit into them, dismissing their feelings as real or appropriate.