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Jan 31 17 2:07 AM

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There has been a lot of discussion among psychiatrists and psychologists if there really is such a thing as a sex addiction (like in nymphomania and hypersexuality). The problem is that the term "addiction" refers to the abuse of substances and they way they cause addiction, not sexual arousal, which is produced by your own body/mind.

This is relevant to the crossdreamer debate, as some seem to belive that crossdreaming can be CAUSED by a sex addiction, and not the other way around: that a suppressed and unlived sexuality can cause an obession with -- let's say -- porn.

How To Treat Sex Addiction When You Don't Think It Exists

Zahra Barnes writes:
=In Kerner’s corner is the American Academy of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, which in December 2016 released a statement emphasizing their belief that sex addiction isn’t real. “[AASECT] does not find sufficient empirical evidence to support the classification of sex addiction or porn addiction as a mental health disorder and does not find the sexual addiction training, treatment methods, and educational pedagogies to be adequately informed by accurate human sexuality knowledge,” the statement reads in part.
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 According to Katehakis, people can get hooked on the rush, whether that’s due to sex or drugs: “[These actions] form deeper neural pathways as they become habituated. Humans have very malleable brains, so these become adaptive patterns.”She believes that true sex addiction happens because the person needs that flood of feel-good feelings. “Classic sex addiction is based in trauma, like emotional or physical abuse or neglect in childhood,” Katehakis says, adding that a person who has been traumatized may feel “dead inside” and look to different vices in an effort to feel something. “The use of sex creates a dopaminergic [dopamine-related] rush.”


I found this comment especilly illuminating:
Some people may think they’re addicted to sex—or even have an expert diagnose them as such—because they’re doing things outside their comfort zone or acting in a way that feels out of control.“In my experience, the majority of people [who identify as sex addicts] are not really compulsive at all,” Aaron says. “They may have a fetish they feel is unhealthy or impure, or come from a religious, sex-negative, or sex-shaming background.”Kerner agrees. “There’s a number of people who are alarmed at some aspect of their sexuality, like masturbating to gay porn or liking kinky sex, and want to eliminate it. Because they cannot, they identify as sex addicts,” he says, noting that men are far more likely than women to present with problematic sexual issues.


In other words: Crossdreamers may think they are sex addicts, because society instills gulit into them, dismissing their feelings as real or appropriate.

 
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Feb 2 17 8:23 AM

I don't see myself as a sex addict, far from it; I suspect I have a relatively low sex drive for a man, I'm certainly very inexperienced. I'm not saying my crossdreaming isn't related to my sexuality but its a distinct part of me....

I confess I'm a bit skeptical about sex addicts but there is probably a forum for addicts somewhere online where someone is typing ight not how unfair it is that their condition isn't recognised. I admit I usually think 'sex addict' is an excuse for unfaithfulness... I'm in now way prudish about how much sex someone has, or what they do, between consenting adults, I do think faithfulness is to be prized. If someone thinks they are in a relationship with you, be faithful or at least let them know things are not as they see them..

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Mar 14 17 5:47 PM

BINGO

My diagnosis on the nose!

Trauma, sexual abuse, PTSD, substance abuse, gender dysphoria, anxiety/depression, sex addiction. This is the list my therapist works up. We have some areas of disagreements but mostly about definitions, not about behavior. Vets Admin rates me 100% service-connected, permanent disabled.

Anne Vitale, Ph.D, elsewhere in CDL suggests "GEDAD" "gender expression deprivation anxiety disorder" -- that we're not dysphoric about our genders. Instead we are anxious about being deprived of our expression of gender.

What I learned about coping with the way I feel (which I didn't understand) is that during the 1960's the "sex/drugs/rock&roll" scene brought relief. Drugs and orgasms release endorphines. Endorphines soothe. Chronically sexually abused starting at 9 yrs old, I learned anxiety management through the endorphine dump that is orgasm. Later I learned that drugs really heighten orgasm and we are on our way.

Somewhere along the line, I was early 30's, I dared to share/disclose the trans gendered aspect of my sexuality to a cis-F partner -- who really enjoyed sex/drugs/rock&roll. She liked the fantasy of having sex with a woman.

Pushing 70 yrs old these days and my therapist, who specializes, suggests to me that I am basically an addictive personality, that sex is one of the addictions. Addiction as a coping mechanism/strategy for PTSD, anxiety/depression, gender dysphoria. What is the etiology of the addiction? What is it that I am "coping" with? How about GEDAD ???


I live half my life in a closet. In the past couple years with the help of a dear pal who is going to be my cis-F "Best Man" at the wedding, I've come to realize that trans-gender expression has been a central feature in my life, graduate studies, chat rooms, forums, closets, coping mechanisms.

Cutting to the chase here, as in the past year or so -- I'm able to express my gender variance, how I feel, who I am. And seeing a lot of the "addiction behaviors" go away. No longer spending half my life essence medicating someone I'm not allowed to be.

 

Allison Wunderland's Transcend Dance
http://allisontranscend.blogspot.com/

Last Edited By: AllisonWunderland Mar 14 17 5:57 PM. Edited 1 time.

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