Well I kind of agree with that, I don't want to have to change who I am or what I do greatly to find acceptance at either end of the scale. I quite like trying to focus on being vaguely 'smart' rather than pretty, and even were I to eventually have surgery in order to eventually have sex in a way that actually works for me, I wouldn't probably spend hours shaving my legs much less getting a bikini wax or whatever.
I don't fetishise that kind of behaviour thing, hence not really being into the 'sissy' french maid outfits and so forth.
You just want to be seen as normal female, not a parody that's trying much too hard to be something you aren't. I kind of pride myself on being quietly competant, and have some very high ideals for my behaviour that I often fail to live up to.
That said, the HRT thing really seems to help my mental state and concentration, and while I was happy to try to self-medicate with PM I didn't really know what I was doing, I was just looking for a bit of relief from crushing depression, and it worked. But then when I 'came out' to my mum she got really worried that I was buying unknown substances over the internet from thailand, which 'could be rat poison, for all I knew', so she wanted me to see a proper doctor if I was going to go any further.
So then I was on the more formal path with the extended 2+ years waiting time, and 7 assessment sessions spread out over as many months where I had to try to explain everything that had gone though my in the last 20 years in great detail.
I don't think I should have to prove things to that extent or physically change things suddenly and dramatically in other areas of my life just to get a small bit of medically supervised help, but the way the system seems to be working at the moment is that you have to claim some kind of a great hardship in order to even get onto the program.
Whatever, as hormonally female, I hope I might feel so much better that I'd be more energetic and so also then want to be fitter and eventually even try visiting a public swimming pool or joining a gym again, and I wouldn't want to stick out unduly in the changing room etc. but I hardly want to spend lots of money getting my hair or nails done every week.
Can we not just be normal people doing normal jobs that just want do what works to feel a bit more comfortable in ourselves, without all this academic philosophical garbage?
I'm a software engineer, I'll stick to thinking about the hard sciences thank you.
I hardly think I have a history of 'oppressing' anyone, and I've hardly benefitted from so-called 'male privilege' either. I was basically labelled as the least-cool person, out of a class of 120 in my school yearbook, and socially it hasn't really looked up much since, except where, mostly by my own efforts and going above and beyond, I am somewhat of a national expert in one very very small niche area of domain-specific software.
So far as I can tell, no one really takes me very seriously as it stands, I've always been basically excluded and ignored in public, if not often outright laughed at, and most of the time I just try to keep out of the way of all the 'important' people who feel they need to put everyone else down, be they male or female bodied.
Does Theresa May for example actually experience oppression for being a woman? She's far more powerful and assertive than I will likely ever manage.