Oh Emma I so sorry to hear that.... On a day where I just picked up the final settlement form the sale of my house, post divorce.
I just hope you both can maintain a friendly relationship, mine break up was full of hate ...and that was from just coming out of being as a one a month part timer.
I never understood the hate from her...but it is real, she hounded me on Twitter and outed me to TERFs ...and can you believe this...even Ray Blanchard.
Nothing I had done (she went through many life threatening issues, in fact I actually saved her life) warranted that I stick by her through thick and thin, through years of hospital visits....the long nights sitting beside her listening to machines saying 'beep'... the fear that this was the last time and she would die.
Ok she could not handle me being a very part time cross dresser (as I was back then) ...but not the total hatred from her.
Funny enough she was the one person I trusted to tell, I loved her so much and thought she did too. And sexually she was amazingly broadminded...we had a wild relationship that way....weird.
Even weirder she was so supportive at first, bought me clothes, did my makeup and all the rest. Even, against my will, outed me to some close friends. One time she and I went out gender switched, she as a male and me as a female....
Would I have transitioned if she had not gone? If we could have worked out a compromise ..probably not.. I loved herthat much.
And maybe that is for the best, because I could never go back after transitioning. I'd kill myself first. I never realised just how horrible and how strong my gender dysphoria really was...and what it cost me to cope with it.
Sorry rambling ...fair bit of whisky in me now, the regrets of loss, loss of her, of not transitioning as I really thought seriously about in 2000 and ran away from ...of everything. Of my friends I loved so much...now gone
But I have new friends that really like me, to my surprise I am popular...people hug me and like me now. I can go to many places now and I just get big hugs from them. People invite me to things, come up to talk to me. I get smiles form people.
So many contacted me about my breast infection issues I have been struggling with .. that a cis women said just recently...'Lisa is a real woman now she has a woman;s health problem'.... to be fair I can think of lots of better affirmation.
If I could change anything in the past now it would be (1) transition in 2000 or (2) Miriam and I splitting but remaining friends.