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Oct 13 16 4:31 AM

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Speaking for myself, and judging from what others write, especially in their introductions, this site seems to offer something really importnt for crossdreamers - a place for community, for making friends with kindred spirits, for sharing experiences and developing understanding.

All very good, but it needs to be active in order to deliver. If people log in to discover that not much has been added since the last time they logged in, they'll stop bothering sooner or later.

So please help us all by being active. Contribute to threads (including old ones - most discussions remain relevant) and, particularly, start new threads. If there are no new threads to post on, discussion will gradually dry up. Start a thread about anything, within reason. That way you help the site keep active, and you get it to address the subjects you'd like it to adress.

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Oct 13 16 4:58 AM

Yes! This is extremely important. And you do not have to write a thesis in order to start a new thread. A few paragraphs of reflection, a few words about a problem that bothers you, sharing something nice, asking a simple question -- that is all that is needed.

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Oct 17 16 4:28 PM

I don't want this to sound negative, but I think that crossdreaming is just one symptom of being transgendered. For some reason for a lot of us it is the first recognized symptom which leads a fair number of people here. Once here they learn more and realize that being transgender involves much more than just crossdreaming and their explorations take them else where and most never come back.

I'm not sure there is a way to stop this from happening. Maybe try to sell the site as something more. But I'm not sure what that would be...

I think the more we help people discover their true selves the more likely they are to move on.

Lindsay


"The thing is you see what you want to see and you hear what you want to hear, dig?" the Pointed Man

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Oct 19 16 12:10 AM

 Once here they learn more and realize that being transgender involves much more than just crossdreaming and their explorations take them else where and most never come back.


I am sure that is the case for many, and I am not blaming anyone. But the goal for this forum was also to discuss gender variance in the broad sense, including the lives of those who chose to transition. 

Moroever, there is another group that is also very important: Those who do realize that this is more than crossdreaming, but who -- for various reasons -- do not chose to transition. For lack of a better term we could call them "non-transitioning trans women" or "non-transitioning trans men".  I definitely belong to that category and I think of this as my home.

In any case: This forum does not have to be everything for everyone, but we need to generate enough activity to keep it alive, also in order to help the passers by.

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Oct 19 16 7:05 AM

jackmolay wrote: Moroever, there is another group that is also very important: Those who do realize that this is more than crossdreaming, but who -- for various reasons -- do not chose to transition. For lack of a better term we could call them "non-transitioning trans women" or "non-transitioning trans men".  I definitely belong to that category and I think of this as my home.


I consider myself as part of this group too. Maybe if we promoted this aspect over crossdreaming more people would stick around. Just have crossdreaming be one aspect, or say tool, that non-transitioners can use to cope.

Lindsay


"The thing is you see what you want to see and you hear what you want to hear, dig?" the Pointed Man

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Oct 19 16 8:08 AM

jackmolay wrote:
 

Moreover, there is another group that is also very important: Those who do realize that this is more than crossdreaming, but who -- for various reasons -- do not chose to transition.


I think this describes me perfectly as well and why I like it so much here!

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Dec 3 16 5:25 PM

I really don't think we need to fall out over any perceived differences.. I never get annoyed with people being open about who they are; Only when people try saying that I must be something because of something they've realised about themselves.... To choose a non controversial example, for this site anyway, I get very annoyed by people who transisition, find they have made a mistake and then post all over the internet that nobody should ever transisition because it was wrong for them

I find myself in a very similar position to Vaydra, or was when I was her age.... a few years older now

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