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trans is about subjective feelings. it is objectively true that you are trans if you have the subjective feelings. this is odd, as it can feel like a choice, like you can be not trans by not accepting the feelings. but you are trans - like it or not, however you respond to or interpret the feelings.
this says nothing about what causes the feelings. saying that you have trans feelings definitely does not mean that there must be objective female essence within you. this can be - and is - debated and debated and debated, but you've got the feelings regardless. it is not a kind of madness, it is not like believing you are Elvis Presley - it is far too common, and common amongst generally sane people. we have the feelings - feelings cannot be false.
so, i am transgender - 'trans'. it's something very private, lonesome, yet there are so many of us out there. in particular this is the case with crossdreaming, which by definition goes on inside a crossdreamer - it is not a social act, not a social presentation. the feelings - how i regard them and how i regard myself in the light of them - seem so important, so important to me, such a deep and crucial part of who i am. so i really feel a bond with others who feel the feelings. it's not what you do, it's what you feel.
i sense from introductions here that people join CDL wanting to feel this bond, a sense of community. just feeling the bond is a big start. you are not alone. xx