Looks like Kay Brown is watching you watching her.. which is kinda funny..
Though she did also post this: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe which also is a nice way of looking at things, going back to the 'defence mechanism' idea.
I mean, if a part of you, for whatever reason, religion, parenting, or simple embarrassment, fundamentally rejects the very idea that you might be trans, or it just wasn't even a concept that you were even aware of, I can see that as the basis for your carefully constructing your self-identity omitting that one vital piece of information, until one day the nagging cognitive dissonance you experience with your body and in every social interaction grows too great, and you reach a point where you can no longer ignore it, which might well take until you are 30ish, and that is what presents as so-called 'late onset', at least to the clinicians.
Then you go back and try to reconstruct a narrative of your existence and experiences including that piece of information you had previously omitted, and find that it all makes so much more sense to you what was actually going on at the time, but you then get accused by the clinicians and the separatists of engaging in rationalisation in the opposite direction. Instead of coming up with true information to support your new-found and sincerely believed 'born this way' case, you are accused of spinning a false and flawed self-narrative to support your late developing but overpowering sexual perversion.
"Nobody calls me a queer/tranny" rather quickly becomes "Nobody calls me a sexual fetishist, I'm a 'true' trans* woman dammit", unlike those other 'freaks'.
It's the same kind of narcisism that leads you down one path as leads you down the other, and from the point of view of the straight men it's like, 'You're all just freakish trannies to me, get over yourselves', unless you are lucky enough to look like Kim Petras, and even then..
So it's still pretty horrible for us out there whatever you look like, and however young you start, even if you avoid male puberty entirely..
I dunno, I do know what I was doing when I was 4 5 and 6 it's just that at the time I didn't think it was that wrong or unusual, just that maybe other people seemed to have a problem with me, and that problem only seemed to grow greater as I got older, until I realised at about 14 what some of what the problem was, and took step to minimise my outward expression I guess, until that kind of thing subsumed my original awareness and I just identified, if I identified as anything, as 'geek', expecting to just grow out of it one day, until I got fed up with being so emotionally dissociated and stuck in a rut like that indefinitely, and went looking for some better, more accurate answers, starting when I was about 27. Why do I keep getting so cripplingly depressed ever few years? Why does life seem so pointless? Why can't I ever seem to concentrate and succeed at any long-term goals? Why do people still seem to single me out and make fun of me if I try to get involved in any more macho activities? What the hell are other people seeing that I'm not? and so on.
Which leaves me very confused and still rather split internally, and feeling like I wish I'd been allowed to be more like Kay Brown and to transition at 17, when I would surely have done it oh-so gladly, (I mean considering how nutty I was getting back then, I'd have probably had a pretty good case), had I thought that my parents wouldn't disown me, had I not been stuck in a single-sex school doing my oh-so 'vital' A Levels, and had I not been scared of what my remaining grandparents, aunts and cousins etc. would have thought. instead of waiting till my mid thirties, when people like her seem to want to hate me and exclude me even more for doing so.