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Here is another interesting article that adds to the new view of what women want (and for that matter: what females of other species want) as regards sex and love.
Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph that I found especially interesting:
There are other factors propping up the idea that women prefer to be sexually passive. Bergner reports that preliminary research indicates women are most turned on by their partners' desire for them. It's easy to see how this could be misconstrued as passivity — especially because more than a century of conventional wisdom says women don’t like sex as much as men do. But if we accept Bergner’s radical thesis that women do, in fact, like to get off, and get off on being desired, the question of who pursues whom poses a real conundrum for single women.
Think about it: Women want sex, and in particular, they want sex with people who really want them. But socially, many straight men still find it a turnoff when women are sexual aggressors. Which means that, for women, aggressively pursuing the thing they want actually leads to them not getting it. I suspect this is the source of much sexual dissatisfaction of the modern single lady, who's so horny she's running across the street to Walgreens to buy more batteries twice a week, but is unable to pick up men despite social conventions that men are "easy" to bed and women have to be coaxed into casual sex. The thing women are told they can access any time is, maddeningly, often just out of reach.
There are two things of relevance to crossdreamers and especially MTF crossdreamers here:
1. Female sexuality is no less sexual than male sexuality. The fact that MTF crossdreamers get turned on by something does not mean that they do not have a female side to their psyche.
2. The idea that women get turned on by being desired (in addition the traditional idea of being aroused by the male appearance) might help explain some MTF crossdreamers dreams of "feeling sexy" and desireable.