Jen, I have had periods in my life with very intense body dysphoria. This would be a persistent feeling that would exist beyond arousal, but it was in the state of arousal were it was always the most disturbing. Although I never had my T tested in those days, I am guessing that these body dysphoric episodes correlated very well with high T levels. It was as if I had this itch, but absolutely the wrong equipment to resolve it. Sometimes it was so upsetting, it made me feel physical sick. Does that fit into your idea of being inter-sex in a mental sense?
April, I've only begun to learn about transgender theories. Five years ago, the whole LGBT.....no, no, no......make that TP (transgender and pansexual) community meant nothing more to me than a bunch of outlandishly dressed men and women who had a lot of free time on weekends for a parade in New York City. After all, my gender presentation and thoughts are all consistent with those of simple, ordinary straight cis females. But when I met my first online friend who had a mind and body mismatch, I couldn't turn back to not seeing trans issues. My pal is 61 years old, so she's from a time when people thought that a feminine man is just an unfortunate gay man with no prospects of a serious family and respectable fortune. So, the "cure" for all of this nonsense is gay conversion therapy where the quack just tells the patient to "Knock it off and be a man."
Well, the problem is that she can't. One of the symptoms is to be loved like a woman, much like you, April. She did get married and have a son as a husband and a father by the way, so it isn't that she has intersex genitals, but no matter what, her brain didn't recognize her body.
She's now divorced and is taking HRT that has made her a lot better. So, her case convinced me. A 61 year old is not likely to follow a fashion trend.
Then I read up on evolution and Joan Roughgarden......and .....here I
am. I am no expert on intersex conditions, but I know that mind and body mismatches are real.