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Apr 29 16 9:40 PM

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Since I'm trying to figure out if this whole "Universal Theory" applies to me since I crossdream today and that I could really have a female "core", I have to think back on my school days.  I don't recall doing any cross dreaming before college, so all I have to go on is personality traits and relationship histories.

I've always had a fascination with tom boys.  In sixth grade, I remember having a crush on a tomboy who was a couple years older than me.  The type of crush kind of reminds me of a girl's crush on a male athlete.  I'd look up to her in amazement.  In eight grade, there was another tomboy that I got close to.  People even called her my second girlfriend (one of only two times I could say i had a girlfriend).  I guess I think tomboys are cool.  But I also liked plenty of other types of girls, like "good girls", "exotic girls", or bookworm girls.

More recently as an adult, I've found myself absolutely floored in amazement when meeting really tall ladies.  I just want to worship at their feet!  Something about really tall girls really pushes my buttons and drives me wild.  I've also attended women's sporting events just so I can catch a glimpse of all the tomboys and tall girls in all their splendor.  And in the realm of fiction, I've got a real thing for the "kick ass female" character. 

I have to wonder if a lady like that would end up being probably the best match for a cross dreamer like me.  Too bad I'm not athletic myself =(
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Apr 30 16 6:46 PM

I think the best match for any crossdreamer is someone who will accept us and love us for what we are. But I admit that I have the same attractions as you. I love to be physically and mentally overpowered by women. I think it is part of the attraction to gender role reversal. I have a massive crush on a tomboy right now who doesn't know my feelings for her.

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Apr 30 16 8:39 PM

Sofie wrote:
I think the best match for any crossdreamer is someone who will accept us and love us for what we are.

Right on, Sophie! The rest, well, to each her own. I'd say the former takes priority for me.

Emma

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May 1 16 12:30 AM

LogicalVulcan wrote:
Since I'm trying to figure out if this whole "Universal Theory" applies to me since I crossdream today and that I could really have a female "core", I have to think back on my school days.  I don't recall doing any cross dreaming before college, so all I have to go on is personality traits and relationship histories.

I've always had a fascination with tom boys.  In sixth grade, I remember having a crush on a tomboy who was a couple years older than me.  The type of crush kind of reminds me of a girl's crush on a male athlete.  I'd look up to her in amazement.  In eight grade, there was another tomboy that I got close to.  People even called her my second girlfriend (one of only two times I could say i had a girlfriend).  I guess I think tomboys are cool.  But I also liked plenty of other types of girls, like "good girls", "exotic girls", or bookworm girls.

More recently as an adult, I've found myself absolutely floored in amazement when meeting really tall ladies.  I just want to worship at their feet!  Something about really tall girls really pushes my buttons and drives me wild.  I've also attended women's sporting events just so I can catch a glimpse of all the tomboys and tall girls in all their splendor.  And in the realm of fiction, I've got a real thing for the "kick ass female" character. 

I have to wonder if a lady like that would end up being probably the best match for a cross dreamer like me.  Too bad I'm not athletic myself =(

That is entirely possible.  Alot of us have very similar experiences here, but we are also a very diverse group in many other ways.

I don't have the attraction to tall women you have, but I completely get the tomboy part.  For me, I think a part of it is being aesthetically attracted to those who resemble myself personality wise, or in other words to those who embody the type of woman I would want to be.  

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May 1 16 9:12 AM

Lost247365 wrote:

 

That is entirely possible.  Alot of us have very similar experiences here, but we are also a very diverse group in many other ways.

I don't have the attraction to tall women you have, but I completely get the tomboy part.  For me, I think a part of it is being aesthetically attracted to those who resemble myself personality wise.  

Oh that makes sense.  Whatever happens, I'll need to make sure to find someone who there's actual chemistry with, and not just someone who i'm comfortable around as friends.  Though friends are good too ^^.

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May 1 16 9:18 AM

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Sofie wrote:
I think the best match for any crossdreamer is someone who will accept us and love us for what we are.

Right on, Sophie! The rest, well, to each her own. I'd say the former takes priority for me.

Emma

I think we can get too hung up on "types" and think that only one will be a perfect fit for us. But some can be more compatible than others for us individually. I know as a submissive I'm obviously more compatible with dommes.

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May 1 16 11:03 AM

I am guessing many crossdreamers fantasize about becoming females that are not far removed from those females that attract them. I am not absolutely sure of the direction of cause and effect here. I do know that in my transition, I have sort of become the type of women which has previously attracted me. In my previous life I gravitated towards women who were free spirits, highly rebellious, and tended to wear their emotions on their sleeve.

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May 2 16 7:32 AM

April wrote:
I am guessing many crossdreamers fantasize about becoming females that are not far removed from those females that attract them. I am not absolutely sure of the direction of cause and effect here. I do know that in my transition, I have sort of become the type of women which has previously attracted me. In my previous life I gravitated towards women who were free spirits, highly rebellious, and tended to wear their emotions on their sleeve.

For me, it's been more a case of opposites attracting. :)

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May 2 16 2:36 PM

April,

Yes I experience this as you suggest. I have always been attracted to women who could be described as the "girl next door" type: cute, feminine, a bit shy, honest, caring, sensitive. But not to what might be described as glamorous, overly sexy, aggressive, a "diva". And the type of woman I try to be is exactly like those I find attractive. Like you said, I wouldn't speculate on the cause/effect, but I know that's how I experience it.

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May 14 16 12:45 AM

I'd always been attracted to woman who were strong, usually type As. Not what I ended up marrying, which I think has been a good thing. Also the first three girls I fell for I later learned were lesbian. So was that a reflection of me seeing something in them I wanted... for myself? I don't know, but it certainly seems possible.

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Jun 10 16 7:31 AM

wow similar to me

I relate so much to this. When I was in sixth grade I had a fascination with tall female athletes such as basketball players and volleyball. I would look in amazement at the athletic girls and have a little crush on them like I wanted to be their girlfriend. This was after crossdressing started. This fascination stayed but often went away. In my adult life it returned. As a guy I managed to date some tall women and I felt I had it made, but something was still missing in this puzzle. It was good but not complete. After these and other relationships ended I was puzzled. I got back into attending women's sporting events and was in amazement again of the pretty amazon women etc. I even met some of them. I would ask for photos and pictures like a little girl fan. Eventually I would start a transition process and one day I was out at a supermarket and dressed in female mode and a woman was staring at me in awe. She aske how tall I was and then said "It's not often I see such a pretty tall lady". I was stunned. Something clicked. I felt had acheived what I dreamed of. Is this the answer. Not sure. but it gets me thinking of the frame of mind where we admire so much what we aspire to be. We strive to acheive a relationship with these women to live vicariously through them. Another interesting note is Wonder Woman is extremely popular among gay men. There is discussion that these gay men wish they could be the powerful independent woman that Wonder Woman is.     

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Jun 10 16 8:18 AM

Hmmmm....let's see: I'm 5 foot 2, curvy as hell.....just threatened to have a fight with a boy after school (who says he's going to win me!) because he says he plays percussion better than I can......but I'm also one of his teachers.......hmmmm.....  

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Jun 11 16 3:44 AM

Well I was lucky when I first meet my wife she declared that she was a tomboy. She was never into girl things like dresses and makup, she is strong has bigger musles than me stronger as well has a mean punch so don't mess with her. Been with her 22 years and she accepts me as is.

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Jun 12 16 1:53 AM

Well I was lucky when I first meet my wife she declared that she was a tomboy. She was never into girl things like dresses and makup, she is strong has bigger musles than me stronger as well has a mean punch so don't mess with her. Been with her 22 years and she accepts me as is.


My FTM crossdreamer friends and girlfags tell me that this is the kind of dynamics they often are looking for, where masculinity becomes a female thing and the man is allowed to explore the feminine. It is pretty obvious, when you start thinking about it. Masculinity and feminity is found in both genders, and that does not only apply to gay and lebian people.

The problem is, of course, for the different incarnations of male and female to find each other. I am glad you found her and she found you!

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