Do you mind if I ask what sort of chances you are taking? I find myself doing things like taking my shoes off under my desk at work while my toenails are painted - it's more comfortable, but there is also part of me that wants them to be seen.
Nothing dramatic. Things like walking through the more exterior-visible parts of my house wearing heels and yoga pants.
I just received my copy of Julia Serano's Whipping Girl
. Would reading that at the local coffeehouse count as taking a chance? (Maybe not. I'm in Seattle.)
How would you live as yourself, out in the open? Would you transition?
Yes. I already do this to some extent. I've let my hair grow long and often wear androgynous clothing in public. No dresses or skirts, but I like to wear things not too different from what many women wear when they go jogging. 3/4-length tights, a tee shirt, and baseball cap: with my slender frame the effect is definitely androgynous.
I've also begun wearing feminine necklaces and bracelets, but nothing ostentatious. One of my "chances" is the blue butterfly necklace that I'm using for my avatar here. Part of me has been hoping someone will notice it peeking out of my shirt collar and ask about it...
Or are you just looking for people to know and accept you for who you are?
This, mostly. But I have a little red dress I would love to wear to the next neighborhood barbecue, and three-inch heels really do make my legs look nice. :P
(Obviously feel free not to answer if these are too personal!)